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Two months into it myself. SO has been a work from home controller for a couple small companies and is the bread winner. So I'm adapting to being a "house boy" and doing everything I can to not annoy her. We have been together since high school.
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Same here, high school sweet heart. But MIL is about 70% the way down the dementia curve. So, the more she reads, now she hands me paper and says, "You need to read this, you are showing early signs..." <sigh>
Charlie Gilley
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
Has never been more appropriate.
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I'm less than a year away and looking forward to it. I have had many years of practice staying out of the Queen's way, and plenty of caves nearby to hide in when I don't.
There are no solutions, only trade-offs. - Thomas Sowell
A day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.
- Calvin (Bill Watterson, Calvin & Hobbes)
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God, if you exist, please let me go during...  way before retirement.
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment
"Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst
"I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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Ah, yes, our "Golden Years"!
My first retirement 35 years ago, play lots of golf, blah, blah. Reality set in. Started contracting, part time. Retired again (rinse, repeat).
SO and I give each other space, divide "around the house" stuff without really documenting it, just happens. Like the saying goes, I just click OK.
Older relatives and their ailments/dementia episodes came and went, dealt with as best we could. Hurts when it is parents.
I point to my left elbow, "that doesn't hurt".
Hang in there, life is good.
>64
It’s weird being the same age as old people. Live every day like it is your last; one day, it will be.
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theoldfool wrote: I point to my left elbow, "that doesn't hurt"
I got that reference.
I’ve given up trying to be calm. However, I am open to feeling slightly less agitated.
I’m begging you for the benefit of everyone, don’t be STUPID.
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I'm 18 months away from fts retirement. The SO has been "retired" for ~5 years already. Luckily no in-laws around and our house is big enough that we can do our own things without bothering each other.
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charlieg wrote: I still have a lot of stuff to do around the house, and it should keep me busy
After retirement one needs to fill at least an extra 40 hours a week for another 20 years.
So on top of whatever stuff one was already doing while working.
That is lot of time.
And one has to be completely self driven as well. On the job one is always thinking 'I got to get this done because Bob and Mary really need it to happen'. But in retirement the only driver, again for 20 years, is yourself.
More time for gardening? 20 years worth? How big is that yard really?
Home improvements? 20 years worth? Even presuming the back holds up.
Learning to oil paint? You will be an expert in only 5 years.
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Like bon jovi said.. u have to keep the faith.
Caveat Emptor.
"Progress doesn't come from early risers – progress is made by lazy men looking for easier ways to do things." Lazarus Long
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I was gonna retire last July, but I bought another hotrod and SWMBO said I couldn't retire quite yet. Now, I'm set to retire in a year and a half. Me and SWMBO have been working from home since the covid bio attack happened, so we're used to each other. 
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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#realJSOP wrote: the covid bio attack
Not the first time I hear about the idea, but I like your wording.
Good to hear from you John. I thought you did retire. Do tell about the hotrod. Do you still have the Mustang?
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Still have the Mustang - it's been ten years since I built it, and it still runs great.
The new hotrod is a 1964 Fairlane Thunderbolt tribute with a 429cid engine. I bought it already built - it's visually stunning - but it was built more than 30 years ago, and I've already had to replace the fuel system (including removing all the nitrous equipment), the rear end (4.56 gears are NOT street-driving friendly), most of the electrical system, and the wheels/tires (wheels were chromed steel that were decaying and were too narrow for the tires, and the tires were too old for the tire shop to put back on the car - the date code was 1990). I'm currently working on improving the cooling system - hope to be done with that in the next week or so.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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#realJSOP wrote: it's been ten years since I built it
Has it, already? Man, time flies...
#realJSOP wrote: The new hotrod is a 1964 Fairlane Thunderbolt tribute with a 429cid engine. I bought it already built - it's visually stunning
That predates me, but I can absolutely appreciate the classics. That is a ride to make heads turn.
And it sounds like the previous owner had a garage queen on his hands, and wasn't doing much actual driving.
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I am almost 70, and still love working as a .NET/Azure developer full time. I keep up with changing technology (recently built my first production Blazor web app) so I don’t let age and experience get in the way of being proficient in current and coming technologies.
I am sure the day is coming when I either can’t or don’t want to work full time. But that day is not here yet, nor knocking at the door (yet).
To preview retirement, I work from home 100% remote. My wife and I worked out the issues of me being home with her 24x7. I have my room for daytime work with a refrigerator, bathroom nearby, and a small kitchen so I don’t get in her way. She comes down to visit and watch TV when she wants to during the day.
If possible in the reader’s job, try a year or so of 100% remote before retiring. It sure helped us.
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I appreciate all of your feedback. I know there are some very experienced people here  and say something stupid on the lounge, you will reap what you sow. On the other hand, there is an enormous wealth of technical, life, cooking and dealing with cats experience here. In retrospect, I confess to whining a bit.
Part of my stress is the MIL busting her hip a few weeks ago (and I'm the in-law). So, wife is stressed for FIL. MIL/FIL have been in an a long term abusive relationship (won't go into it - mental issues at play) and MIL is post mid stage dementia. FIL is now slightly distancing himself from her noise and getting some sleep - starting to see things rationally.
The physical situation is that they have lived 5 houses up the street for 10 years, and at first, I thought it was a curse. Today, it's a blessing. We can give him a hot meal (MIL is in PT for another 10 days) and let him vent a bit. He expressed his appreciation that he could drop in, eat some good food and just decompress. Broke my heart that I was irritated at all of the disruption. Helping older family at this time is extraordinarily difficult. You don't want to see it coming, and when it does it's an elephanting freight train.
As for work, the first thing I'm going to do is stop bitching and get into the projects. It will help get MIL into assisted living and the next phase of family life. I've committed to MBW to fix or get rid of the broken car and repaint the downstairs with all trim. I'll check in next month.
Side note: if there is anyone out there getting into this elder parent care thing, feel free to reach out. All I have are scars, so I might be able to have some suggestions. I used to thing software was complicated, then I started dealing with this.
Charlie Gilley
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
Has never been more appropriate.
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A month or so ago I decided to switch my main PC to Linux (from Win11) for various reasons. Partly because of MS shenanigans, partly because the system is older and Win11 wasn't running all that well. Turns out Win11 was also taking 50+% of my GPU, and now I'm able to watch YT videos without issues when also playing Minecraft > 1.16.5. Before things would break in all sorts of weird and wonderful ways. Linux is also much faster in general.
What do you get when you cross a joke with a rhetorical question?
The metaphorical solid rear-end expulsions have impacted the metaphorical motorized bladed rotating air movement mechanism.
Do questions with multiple question marks annoy you???
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Where can we send your complimentary Linux shirt?
Jeremy Falcon
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I moved to Fedora on my home computer about a decade ago - it wasn't all joy but do not regret it for a moment...
First I was using a few VM's with windows for SQL and gaming, but droped them all and today I use Windows only at work...
"It never ceases to amaze me that a spacecraft launched in 1977 can be fixed remotely from Earth." ― Brian Cox
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I have Win11 on one NVMe SSD and Linux(Pop!_OS) on another. Lately I only use Linux because I can configure it exactly like I want and never had any issues. I use Android Studio for programming and Timeshift for backup. Updates works better than on windows. Win11 I use maybe once a month.
jhaga
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Yup, like many others, I tried Linux (SUSe) to resurrect old hardware. Probably about 15 years ago. Now on Debian 12.5 on my main system.
Windows 11 runs fine (relative thing) in a VM. This system has the right chip. I run several flavors of Windows VM's, including an old XP system that has FoxPro.
All run fine on NVME drives.
>64
It’s weird being the same age as old people. Live every day like it is your last; one day, it will be.
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I attempted to install Win11 in a VM using Gnome Boxes for something (that I later found a Linux version of), but it seems there's an issue somewhere in there that causes the installation to never continue after the initial reboot. It just sits there at the loading spinner and after about 30 minutes errors out and shuts down.
What do you get when you cross a joke with a rhetorical question?
The metaphorical solid rear-end expulsions have impacted the metaphorical motorized bladed rotating air movement mechanism.
Do questions with multiple question marks annoy you???
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That is the real, hardware, install emulator. 
>64
It’s weird being the same age as old people. Live every day like it is your last; one day, it will be.
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Happening soon to a computer near me.
Charlie Gilley
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
Has never been more appropriate.
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Wordle 1,152 2/6*
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Can't get more lucky than this.
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