I was able to get what I want using the code I posted here:
Drawing Graphics in Titlebar in Windows 7[
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However, it only works in XP. I am guessing that this is why i could not get any of the other articles with code samples to work. In windows 7 after getting the windows messages and drawing the graphics, the customer border and titlebar is drawn over again by Windows. This does not happen in XP.
Many thanks for taking the time to read this and offering some ideas!